We all have them. Blind spots. They aren’t just in your rearview mirror when you’re driving—they’re in your mind, your habits, and your relationships.
A blind spot is any belief, behavior, or thought pattern you can’t clearly see in yourself but that still impacts how you live, lead, and love. By their very nature, blind spots are tricky. You don’t know they’re there until someone points them out, or until you notice the fallout they create.
How Do You Know If You Have One?
One of the simplest indicators of a blind spot is recurring frustration. If you find yourself asking, “Why does this keep happening to me?”—whether in your career, health, or relationships—you may be bumping up against a blind spot.
Another sign is defensiveness. If certain feedback stings or feels unfair, it may be less about the messenger and more about a part of yourself you haven’t fully faced.
The truth is, we all have blind spots. It’s part of being human. The key is not to eliminate them all—that’s impossible—but to learn how to notice, accept, and gradually work through them.
Common Blind Spots That Derail Us
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Overconfidence in multitasking abilities – Studies show only 2.5% of people can multitask effectively. Most of us think we can, and the result is burnout, mistakes, and wasted energy.
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Confirmation bias – We seek info that agrees with us while ignoring what challenges us. This limits growth and innovation.
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Emotional avoidance – Suppressing stress, grief, or anger may feel like control, but often leads to physical symptoms or strained relationships.
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Workaholism disguised as ambition – Especially in men, equating self-worth with productivity is common. It creates distance from loved ones and drives dissatisfaction.
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Comparison trap – Women are statistically more likely to compare themselves on social media, leading to lower self-esteem and anxiety.
The Numbers Behind the Struggle
According to the American Psychological Association:
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72% of women report stress related to body image and social comparison.
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61% of men admit to working beyond healthy limits, driven by career identity and fear of failure.
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Over 40% of adults say stress has caused them to lie awake at night.
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Nearly 1 in 5 adults admit to avoiding dealing with a major issue because it feels overwhelming.
Blind spots aren’t just personal—they ripple outward, impacting families, teams, and communities.
A Gentle Practice for Facing Blind Spots
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Self-Acceptance Check-In – When you notice a recurring frustration, pause and say: “I’m human. Blind spots don’t mean I’m broken, they mean I’m growing.”
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Incremental Improvements – Don’t overhaul overnight. Commit to one small action daily. Example: leave work on time once a week if overworking is your blind spot, or journal a few lines if you tend to avoid emotions.
Think of it like adjusting your car mirrors—you don’t eliminate every blind spot, but you minimize the risk of collision.
A Gentle Call to Action
Blind spots don’t have to keep you stuck. With the right awareness, support, and tools, they can become your greatest teachers.
That’s why I created:
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Alchemy Men’s Group Coaching – a brotherhood of leaders who grow together.
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Faith Into Action wellness event – blending breathwork, spirituality, and community transformation.
The first step to change is simple: take action. With the right guidance and the right tribe, anything is possible.
